WEEK 18 The Master Keys Experience

Paying the Price

Early reads in MKE brought about some questioning. Is this a Godly way to think or direction to take?  I was facing material that didn’t gel with my current views and the temptation was to take a road less challenged.

I finally made a firm decision to march forward into this uncharted territory and take it to the end.   So where am I in this journey so far with eight weeks to go?   I am in a state of the deepest spiritual growth I have ever experienced. There have been days of complete jubilation and days of tears.

Hebrews 12:1 says “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run the race marked out for us.”

For weeks now, I have been focused on finding, being aware, and turning from my old blueprint.  I probably drove my mastermind absolutely crazy, but I was determined.  It was my key to forward movement.  It was the anchor that held me back from launching.

I struggled to try to find it, begged others for help to see it, and was tormented that it wasn’t obvious to me.

And then it happened…

Slowly at first and then a flood of realization of what the blueprint of my life looked like.   It was not a pretty picture but just perhaps, I had grown to a place where I could see the ugly realities.  I was relieved and crushed at the same time.  The sin that “entangled me” was not the type that lived on my sleeve but those deep demons of thoughts on the inside.

If you are reading this and saying to yourself, tell me how I find it!  I wish I had all the answers.  But this I can tell you… You will not find it in the busyness of life.  You find it by opening yourself in the quiet morning sits, or the hour of dedication at night.  It will come to each of us at different times, in different ways, but only if you are ready to receive it.

Picture an onion’s layers being peeled back one by one.  Each layer that was revealed leading to another layer.  As I was prepared to receive the answer, they came.  The conscious mind told me I was good, had made great strides, and was growing yet for some gnawing reason, I knew better.  Quieting the soul and preparing to hear the subconscious mind’s wisdom is where the magic happened.  I would wake up after a night’s sleep and a realization would appear.

As I experience each piece of the blueprint map, I was able to trace it back to an event, an environment, a comment that labeled, a disappointment, and the list goes on.  There is probably more to the blueprint than I have now, but I have enough of a picture and understanding to say to myself “I LOVE YOU, Pam Plager” and we have some work to do.  A clear picture of the race is marked out for me and I am ready, willing and able.

LESSON LEARN:  You will find your answers when you are ready to receive them.


WEEK 17 HJ The Master Keys Experience


Recognizing my old blueprint when it rears its head has become my focus. If I could see it, I could nip it in the bud and this journey would become easier.  What does the old blueprint actually look like and how can I recognize it when I am in it instead of the new blueprint that I have created for myself?

How many times do I start the day’s journey in my new blueprint only to “get back in my head” justifying behavior based on the old blueprint and never even realizing I have taken a U-turn?

I have found that there is language that we consciously use that can set off an alarm that the old blueprint is back in play.

It simply has to do with using the word BUT.

Subby cannot resist the sound of your voice.  We typically use “but” to justify our behavior reversing our forward movement and back peddling to our old blueprint…Subby hears it all and filters nothing.

Look at the following statement with this in mind….

”This is what I want you to believe” BUT “this is what I really believe”

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If you are skeptical, I say give it a try.  It is a pretty amazing exercise.

My mastermind partner who deals with clients has keyed into this gem and started to focus on the conversations of her clients when they use the word “but”, listening to the words that follow.  It has clarified to her what they are really thinking or what they really want. A game changer.

Just being aware of using this word can cause a trigger that will help you with changing and growing.

Changing the word but with “and”, “periods” and  “pauses” lets subby hear your feelings not your excuses. Using the word but creates internal frustrations or scattered thoughts which are counterproductive when clarity of purpose is critical to reaching your purpose in life.

Lesson Learned:  Be aware of using the word “but” and its effect.

WEEK 17 The Master Keys Experience

Observation and Opportunity

Marrying the weekly Master Keys Experience with my life has been an eye-opening experience.  The exercises of being observant and aware of others around me, their behavior and mine have been put under “my” microscope.  I am amazed at how much beauty I was missing in the course of a day living a busy autopilot existence with things only receiving my attention if they disrupted my day’s journey.

When did stopping to smell the roses become not appealing? Smiling at a small child and their mother? Making eye contact in passing an elderly person?  Beginning to live differently in direction and intention produces changes in behavior that bring such joy.

The guidance through this journey has helped me to incorporate small changes that are producing compounding effects.  These activities to develop change are not newly developed tasks but are seasoned exercises that have demonstrated effectiveness through devotees over many decades.

For three weeks, the class has been working on the Ben Franklin makeover…focusing on a different characteristic each week.  This exercise was used by… you guessed it…Ben Franklin (documented in his autobiography). Put on your bifocals and take a look at the contributions his life gave us!


The characteristics like courage, kindness, and self-control can be developed and grown.  By taking one characteristic a week and searching for it everywhere in nature, people and yes even in ourselves helps solidify in our minds what it looks like displayed in one’s life.  The kicker is you wouldn’t be able to identify this in others if you didn’t have it yourself.  The seed is already there.  It is up to you to develop it further.

In The Greatest Salesman in the World, scroll 4, Og states that we are natures greatest miracle…That no one has our mind, our heart, our eyes, our ears, our hands, our hair, our mouth…That indeed makes us a miracle because of our uniqueness.  In addition, Og points out “but my skills, my mind, my heart, and my body will stagnate, rot, and die lest I put them to good use.

We each have unlimited potential for growth and change. We are unique and powerful. Directed with the sound advice of Emmerson’s give more get more, our lives can be joyful and full of satisfaction while having an overflowing of blessing to others.   Let not the miracle die with just our birth but produce a life worthy of our calling.

Lesson Learned:  Awareness is critical for dynamic change.






WEEK 16 The Master Keys Experience

Confessions of a fearful writer

I have had a love-hate relationship with people that wax eloquently on paper.   A serious jealous streak would rise when enjoying that type of talent in others.  Struggling with wording, grammar, spelling, and actually pulling out how I am feeling and learning how to put it into words has always been a challenge.  How I wanted to be that person that could write something that would illuminate its reader!!! But why would I push through and put myself through that challenge???

Then along came MKE with the requirement that you must write a blog each week and the journey out of fear began.

I have pushed through the defeating thoughts that held me back and now I am a blogger.  I blog for myself and if it has a connection for others, I am grateful.

Each week, as I write my blog, I can hear my mastermind partner who nurtured me through my first two blogs in my head…. that is not necessary…cut it out….take it down a size.  Without her nurturing guidance, I would have been a statistic of one of those that had left the class.

What better way to celebrate your life changes and struggle than to journal your progress?  The blogs are a vivid written picture of thought processes that were being challenged along the last 16 weeks of the MKE class. As I scroll back through the blogs, my spirit is refreshed with the changes, observations, and direction my life is taking.

I read these words in Draw the Circle this week and I had to laugh.  “We have the natural tendency to remember what we should forget and forget what we should remember”.  How grateful I am that this journey is documented.  Once written, there is no denying the growth. Amnesia is not an issue.

Lesson Learn: There is great value in “your” written word.

WEEK 15 Master Keys Experience

GAIN Thankfulness

We take so much for granted.  Beautiful moments pass without the knowledge that they have touched our lives for the better.  How quickly we can see the ingratitude in others while unaware of the depth of this problem in our own lives.

This quality of gratitude can make us happier, healthier, with a spirit that attracts others and opportunities to us.  With such an amazing payoff, why is this not practiced more?

The scripture in the Bible addresses this in Roman 1:21 “For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile (incapable of producing any useful result) and their foolish hearts were darkened.”

How quickly our THINKING can become futile and our hearts darken.  Only through a thoughtful process of acknowledgment can we open ourselves up to how truly blessed lives we lead.

A few weeks back, we were given an MKE exercise to write down 3 things we were grateful for each day.  The task was easy in the beginning but after the obvious blessings were etched, I began searching my day for the not so blatant gifts….those tucked in the everyday experiences.

I am grateful for this exercise.

I have a richer daily experience viewing my life through a lens of gratitude and an awareness of the abundance of each blessed day.  The fruits of the experience are days of joy!

Lesson Learned: Whatever the cause of ingratitude, the cure is taking the time to find life’s blessings and acknowledge them continually.

WEEK 14 The Master Keys Experience

Keen Awareness

In February 1999 a feature movie, October Sky, hit the big screen.  Based on the true story of Homer Hickam, a coal miner’s son who was inspired by the launch of Sputnik 1 to build rockets eventually reached his goal. Against all odds, he followed his passion until he succeeded.  How can a boy from a small West Virginia coal mining town, with little resources, a lack of support from likely players, suffering from poor mathematics skills, actually achieve such a lofty goal?

There are four key elements to every success story and once they are identified, it will be hard to watch a movie again without the awareness of these components.

DMP Definite Major Purpose

A clearly defined purpose must be established.

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In the case of Homer, he wanted to build rockets.  When he made the outlandish announcements to his family, he was met with much skepticism.  This did not dampen his spirits!

PMA Positive Mental Attitude

A positive mental attitude is necessary to attract the help and assistance and to keep you on top of your goals.  Attitude is critical to success.


Many twists and turns in this story allowed the viewers to see multiple areas where the positive mental attitude was crucial.  Homer got continued pushback from his father who repeats his disappointment in his continuing to pursue the unthinkable. His brother hurled insults not only at home but from the rocket launch pad in front of the town’s people.  Multiple failures, some very public, didn’t curb his attitude.

POA Plan of action

No dream or goal is accomplished without work.


Homer built many models of rockets and through his many failed launches and mistakes, made necessary improvements with each revision. As he began to have success, he held out the goal of participating in the science fair.  Winning the science fair would place him in a position to be noticed and to receive a scholarship to attend college.  Up until this time, the only way a young man could escape the coal mines was an athletic scholarship.

MMA Master Mind Alliance

Having one to two people to form a mastermind alliance to aid in the forward movement of the goal is the ultimate key to success.

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Homer was so passionate about his dream that he was willing to lose his popularity by associating with the class nerd.  This “nerd”, Quin, was brilliant and knew everything about rockets.  Homer’s friends eventually joined forces to form a tight-knit group.  Unlikely alliances opened up to Homer along the way.  His teacher, Miss Riley, was the encourager and patched his math gap with math book for his studies.  A former military man who flew with the red devils offered his support both in person and by offering improvement ideas to his rocket models.

The science fair was won. All 4 of the “rocket men” from the alliance attended college. Homer Hickam ended up as a NASA Engineer.

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A beautiful story with all the key elements of a successful Hero’s journey!

WEEK 13 The Master Keys Experience


NARC may sound like a drug deal bust but it is an acronym for Neurological Associative Reactive Conditioning.  It is a killer of a motivation tool IF the weekly MKE exercises have been practiced.  We, the MKE class of 2018, have spent months working out our personal Definite Major Purpose in life and feeling what it would be like to accomplish those dreams.

As lightweight as that might seem to an outsider, this process has been a three-month dedicated, intense, highly charged, emotional endeavor.

Now the fun part, right?  Time to put the head down and get to work and move the needle of the compass towards that DMP.  This is where many people get stuck.  It is like that first time you put your head down, put your hands over your head to dive into the deep end of a swimming pool.  You know you want to swim but getting into the cold-water head first can cause hesitation.

NARC comes to the rescue. Taking the index card with the written definite major purpose…The one that you spend hours working on, hours reading, hours taking in how it would feel to accomplish, and simply place your index card with your dreams in the trash.  Noooo not the trash!!!  Pain is experienced.

Why such are reaction??? We have become emotionally invested in the outcome of our dreams and goals and have even envisioned ourselves accomplishing these goals.

Ever felt this way when you have stumbled across an old New Year Resolution list that was not accomplished and gave it a toss to the trash?  Me neither!!!

So, this year will be different for a dedicated group of individuals because the groundwork has been completed in order to begin seeing the manifestation of what really matters. Our thoughts and emotions are fully engaged in moving the plan to completion.  No need for New Year Resolutions in January.  This multi-year plan is in place!  With the knowledge we each have and will put to work, successes of heartfelt dreams will begin to be experienced all over the world. I have faith in me and I have faith in you, MKE Class of 2018!

LESSON LEARNED: This is the season for making it happen



WEEK 12 The Master Keys Experience

Index Me

Ever come across an old New Year’s resolution list and realize that nothing was accomplished? Why do we continue to do this practice that eventually becomes very defeating?   The answer is easy.  We think the process of writing dreams and goals down will help us do better and achieve the dreams this time around.

Knowledge of knowing what we want or even knowing the steps to achieve something is not enough. And we have learned in the MKE course that motivation is not enough.  Focus and persistence, when directed at a dream, can be helpful.  And seeing the end-product first in our minds and working backward is a grand plan.

But what about that pesky little voice that tells you that you have failed in the past and what makes you think you can achieve “it”. Where does BELIEF come from???

This week, one of the exercises in the MKE was to write down qualities or accomplishments on 3×5 index cards. At first, I struggled to even remember some of the accomplishments I had achieved.  Once I began to write, I began to remember.  Having someone share their cards with me was very helpful.

If this is an exercise you have not done, use my list to trigger thoughts for your own list (see below).

Once this exercise was completed, I understood it’s value.  I have great qualities and have achieved some wonderful things in the past and I can do it again.  This time around my energies will be focused on my Definite Purpose in Life.  Everything that I have done and become has prepared me for this very rewarding journey and I could not be more grateful.

Lesson Learned:  Taking Inventory from the past can be beneficial.


Started as a receptionist…retired as SVP in Finance NYC

Became an active disciple of God

Raised a beautiful smart talented spiritual daughter

Raised a handsome wise talented outgoing spiritual son

Married for over 30 years

Completed reading the Bible in a year

Excellent Photographer

Expert Cook

Creative Bible teacher

Created organizational method for meal planning

Created successful 4-week Bible series

Successfully moved to San Diego and got established

Successfully moved to NYC after college from Mississippi

Successfully moved to Tampa and became established

Graduated from College in 4 years

Became a blogger

Traveled to Hawaii with the 1st chair of America Band

Traveled to Europe with the 1st chair of America Band

Rated 1 as a student band conductor at states

Meetup organizer

Created the Grub Club in two cities

Started Sarah’s Daughters in Tampa

Won local and competed in the state Miss Mississippi Pageant

Memorized Rachmaninoff in C sharp minor (piano)

Highly rated Motives Makeup trainer

Got boxing reinstated after banned at Mississippi State

President of MSU Alumni Association in NYC 3 years

Awarded Alumni of the year for the College of Arts & Sciences

Known for hospitality skills in every community I have lived



Great Trainer

President of 4 organizations in college

A great organizer of closets

Expert Griller

Master at interviewing

Pressure cooking pro

Created 3 Cookbooks

Super Organized

Event Planner Extraordinaire

The end…until the manifestation of my Definite Major Purpose

WEEK 11 The Master Keys Experience

It is visible

Persistence is a subject worthy of exploration.  A vibrant picture was painted for me yesterday when “persistence” sat next to me on my flight from Tampa to NYC.

When do you begin to live a life with persistence?  Is it when you find something that personally registers with you that gives you that inner drive that propels you to stop at nothing?  Is it a journey to an end or is it a way of living?

The plane was packed, and a petite young woman made her way to the seat next to me.  I was set and ready for the flight with a book that I have been eager to read, As a man thinketh by James Allen.

What are you reading, came the question from a sweet thick accent in a whisper from the young woman?  I raised the cover of the book so she could see.  She smiled and said, “I am teaching myself to read”.  “You know girls are not taught to read in my country”.  I taught Afghan girls how to speak English in my country but as for reading, I am on my own.  I had put a book in my backpack to read on my trip today, but my mother removed it.  I asked my mother why and she just said “because”.

I closed my book and gave her my full attention.

She is a 25-year-old divorced single mom living in a foreign country without a skill that most people take for granted. Those hurdles may cripple others, but she was nothing short of amazing…Studying mathematics in college, overcoming an illness that doctors said couldn’t be cured, helping young girls back in Afghanistan, and looking to start a business are all being achieved. Persistence personified!!

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As the wheels of the plane hit the tarmac, she asked for my number.  I reach for my book and handed it to her.  A big smile crossed her face. And for some reason, I think it will be the perfect read for her.

Lesson learned: Persistence is an ongoing habit


WEEK 10 The Master Keys Experience

Investment Thinking

Can you summon up a vivid memory that happened that caused a strong emotional response…happy, sad, embarrassing, thrilling, exciting, or depressing?    So embedded are they that we can tell you where we were, what we were wearing, what the weather was like, and who was present.  It all comes flashing back.  Just thinking of that past event or comment can evoke the same feeling as if it was yesterday.  Thoughts connected with feelings are powerful.

The Key to Mastering our future lives is linking those same kinds of strong emotional triggers on your future self…How attaining your purpose in life would feel. What it would look like?  And then meeting that future self. The excitement of picturing your future accomplishments as if they have already occurred can be experienced with feelings just as vividly as blushing over a past embarrassment.  Who knew that this was even possible?

Reaching emotional triggers for the future successful self is a journey in itself.  Reading our definite major purpose statement, a press release of future accomplishments, an imaginary talk with a friend about your success and quiet sits reflecting on what that looks like, are tools for bringing forth a future vision of yourself. It seemed silly at first but as the weeks have passed, the emotions about these future events are developing. The excitement is building.

The old thoughts can still be an issue as an average of 70,000 thoughts pass through our minds each day.  An amazing tool for redirecting negative thoughts are positive affirmations.  An affirmation suggested this week was, “I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy”.  That about covers it all.

Lesson Learned:  Simple tools are all you need.