Week 24 The Master Keys Experience

I don’t live “there” anymore

The Final week of the Master Keys Experience is coming to a close.  There is a feeling of accomplishment having pushed through the reading, adopted the habits, establish my purpose and forged in that direction.  Although the focus for 6 months has been on me, the principals practiced have touched all that I encounter.

My past has no hold on me.  Enjoying today for all that it can offer and all that I can give is resulting in a feeling of joy, happiness, and satisfaction.  Lingering in thoughts that do not benefit me have been diminished.

My understanding of God’s love has only intensified showing his love through the freedom he has given me.  His daily guidance and the guidance in Master Keys Experience, has led me to something beautiful.  With this freedom, I have chosen to accept His blessings fully, his promises and now experience a much closer relationship.

With my faith in God and purposeful direction and focus, I know where I live.  I live in today with a firm foot planted in the direction of the life I will live.  My enthusiasm and excitement for the future that I can see will propel me to live the life of purpose that I was intended to live.  May the journey continue and the legacy I leave behind be worthy of the statement, “Well done my good faithful servant”.

LESSON LEARNED:  Controlling your thought is where success and happiness meet.

A special shout out to my mastermind group, Care’n and Jordan, for the hours of work done weekly to put this material to work and helping me make major changes.  Thank you to Mark J. and Davene for their passion and enthusiasm in instructing the principals of the Master Keys.  Deb Waldron, my guide, you were the calm during some of the storms!  Thank you to Gigi, Derek, Lori, and Danya for all your contributions to this journey.  And to my fellow bloggers, your contribution spurred me on in ways you may never know.  Blessing to you all and may this journey of Heros (the class of 2019) make this world a better place.











WEEK 23 The Master Keys Experience

 Removal of the Cement Boots

Ridding yourself of the endless labels, expectations, seemingly failures, and self-sabotage that you have adopted over your lifetime can be dumped. This release is necessary to live the life you were meant to enjoy.  This purge is not something done at the snap of a finger.  Stigmas are woven into the very fiber of our lives. Finding that authentic you is a beautiful thing when you can finally say, I KNOW WHO I AM!

After 23 plus weeks of hours of hard work, most in the Master Keys Experience have reached the point of a clear mental picture of their authentic self…Who you are, your passion and your dreams. This journey described by many as a golden Buddha who has had a cement layer removed to reveal the true value.

How does the “new” you move forward once you have done the work?  The old you knew how to function whether in self-pity, victim mentality, low self-worth, dreamlessness, depressed, or just unfulfilled.  The new you steps into uncharted territory. What next?

Live out the new life, of course!  But there is where the next challenge lies.  Living out the old life was comfortable and stepping into the life of the new you, never has been done before.  Where does the old end and the new begin? The new begins with courage.  It is the courage to make the steps that are uncomfortable.  Not once but again and again until the new life becomes more enjoyable than the old.

There is not a final destination in this journey but a continual movement out of the ordinary into the extraordinary.  Here you find having mastermind partners to encourage you helpful…Here you find the work you have done to find your definite purpose in life stirring…Here you find having faith in God uplifting…Here you find sitting with yourself in silence powerful.

And in the end…

The only one that can take that final leap, kicking off those cement boots, is you.  Pieces of the heavy boots coming off here and there is encouraging.  A full removable is liberating.  Only you can complete the total unearthing of the authentic you.  Crack out the courage to smash the cement boots, march forward, and enjoy the excitement of the journey.

Lesson Learned:  These boots were made for walking


WEEK 22a The Master Keyes Experience

RSVP to the Hero’s Journey

Once, I believed, the call of the hero’s journey was an invitation for a select few and a rare occurrence. If searching for answers in your own life, the awareness of this call is there at some point. Only a few heed the call.  Living a life, never venturing out of the well-worn path, is easy and comfortable.

Why would anyone turn down the opportunity to be the hero in their own life?

Just thinking about attempting the journey can render the cold sweats.  This journey calls out all the emotions we want to avoid: fear, anxiety, self-worth, sadness, uncertainty, doubt…just to name of few.  Staying in the comfort zone, never stretching for the greatness within, keeping unwanted feelings at bay are all avoidance tactic to not proceed.  The process of getting out of the ordinary life is a rocky road with high highs and low lows. It is not for sissies.

When does the call come?

Although some may enjoy this call at a time of peace, most are faced with the call of the hero’s journey during a time of upheaval. Taking on a challenge during an already difficult time is when the invitation arrives…sickness, a divorce, loss of job, financial ruin… Few escape the troubles during a lifetime.

Lost in the journey…

For those that have launched their hero’s journey, you know and understand the uncertainty in the journey.  There will be failures…you learn from them.  There will be tears…nothing better than a cry to clear the fog.  There will be days of celebration…enjoy but do not linger. There will be fear…use the energy.  There will be guilt and feelings of unworthiness…know you are on the right track.  Hold on to the clarity of where you want to go, what you want to be, and enjoy the journey. Consistent actions toward that desire will eventually get you to your destination with a Hero’s celebration from within.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who i

Lesson Learned:   Once you have RSVPed you must show up, and show up, and show up…


WEEK 22 The Master Keys Experience

How to turn off the world?

Dead silence for any period of time is not something I have done or would have welcomed.  Yet, this exercise was encouraged in the Master Keyes Experience.  Like most, I had every excuse under the son not to give this a try.  What exactly did it mean?  No phone, No TV, No computer, No interaction with any person, no music…no distractions.

You may be wondering, why on earth would anyone put themselves into silence?  The answer is simple.  If you spend time alone with yourself, you can determine what you are thinking. No outside influences putting ideas in your head or vying for your energy.  How are you really?  All the distractions pull you away of the awareness of you.

I had my plan set.  Fasted for 3 days and sandwiched in between was my 24 hours of silence.  Walking in nature was a key part of this quiet day.  As plans go, it poured rain.


DEAD SILENCE…So here it goes…After alerting key people in my life of my plan (which could be a blog in itself), I handed my phone over to my husband, stuck two earplugs of pink foam in my ears and headed to the living room where there would be no distractions. I relaxed and focused on my breathing.  Part of my thinking is what am I supposed to get out of this?

BACK TO REALITY and the outcome…True enjoyment!  This was the most surprising aspect of the day.  I am truly happy.  I am more confident in myself, my potential, and my purpose.  My direction in life is clear.  Things that I want to work on identified.  Yet, the most surprising outcome was a business that creatively came forth that nails my purpose and passion for life.  Clarity and focus are more directed than ever before and I have grown in the past 6 months beyond what I thought was possible.

Lesson Learn:  “Silence is deadly” is a fallacy.


WEEK 21 Master Keys Experience

Happiness calling!

Is it possible to live in a state of happiness?  Isn’t that Pollyannaish?  Wouldn’t you have to have your head in the sand oblivious to the world around you?  If you could move into a happier state of mind, would you be willing to do what it takes?

On this MKE journey, we have been given tools to help bring on a state of happiness.  Below are the regular steps I took to improve my happiness.

Turn off the news…This has been the most drastic step I took on this journey.  Never realizing how much emotion was stirred up watching the news, the painful weaning off this addictive activity was a change I made cold turkey.

Just smile…There are so many beautiful things happening around us that are worthy of a smile.  Scientists say that just smiling confuses our subconscious into believing we are happy even when we aren’t and helps you learn better.

Knowing your purpose in life…Taking the amount of time it takes to understand what you really want out of life is so valuable.  Moving closer daily brings on, ”I’ve got this”, happy emotion.

Reading the obituaries…Daily obituaries readings brought awareness to the fact that any one of those people would love to take my place, my problems and to have more time with loved ones.  Happily handling problems and loving up on my family and friends has been such a blessing.

Move…Exercise brings on those endorphins that are always a pleasure. Seeing nature on my walks or sweating out the toxins has improved my outlook and body.

Keep your promises to yourself…Each week I have written down 2 tasks/services and have accomplished them which keeps away a feeling of ignominious.  Might as well be a disease but knowing you keep your promises to yourself is powerful and keeps you “disease” free.

Direct emotions…This was a biggie for me.  Do not attach emotions to things that are out of your control. Now, I say a little prayer and give it to “SOMEONE” else to issue assistance.

Having the knowledge of how to bring on happiness in one’s life is truly valuable.  Give it a try and see if you don’t feel the edges of your lips turning up a little more.

Lesson Learned:  Knowing how to be happy and doing it are two different things!

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WEEK 20 Master Keys Experience

Uneasy Street

A comfort zone can be so appealing. That familiar place where you feel at ease.  No stressors, no pressures, no issues. It’s the easy chair in front of the TV, the job you do with your eyes shut, and autopilot daily motions with little thought to execution. For some, it spells perfection with no yearning for growth.



Another place many find themselves is with a burning desire for something extraordinary.  Let’s call it Uneasy Street, where dreams are not a fleeting thought.  What is the best method to initiate and master this exciting journey? JUMP IN???

This precipice is where many find themselves stuck.

…Yet, I have news for you.  You may not be stuck.

A concept was brought up this week in the Master Keys webinar.  Instead of jumping into the unknown, what about a continual stretching of the outer limits of the comfort zone?

And then it hit me…For many months, members of the MKE class have been writing down each week a service(task) for themselves and one service (task) that moves the goals in our Definite Major Purpose (to be accomplished during the week). Once accomplished, mark completed. No ignominious conditions in this group.

Little by little, we have pushed the outer edge of our comfort zone, feeling a bit unsettled and yet not so pained to have us recoiling in fear.  Have you made the connection yet? The comfort zone has already expanded.  You are on your way!!!

Guided in such a beautiful manner that it seemed effortless. A little stretch here, a little stretch there…



Lesson Learned: Stretching onto “uneasy” street isn’t painful.




Week 19 The Master Keys Experience

…. Clink

When you hear something hit the ground, there is a sound that sparks your attention and curiosity takes over.  What was that?

Finding Joe, a movie about a golden Buddha covered with cement by a group of monks to keep invaders from recognizing its value reveals this phenomenon perfectly. Many years after the invasion, a monk sitting by the cemented Buddha noticed a small piece of rock on the ground. Curiosity caused him to take notice and see a small glimmer of gold, revealing the truth about the statue.  It was golden.

Many of us were drawn to the MKE because we knew that there was something missing and we wanted more out of our lives.  Seeing the very first small chink in our armor, revealing hidden value, had us wanting more.

Digging deep and turning down the “noise” allowed us to figure out what needed to be pruned from the core.  This is not like tearing into a present but a painful and/or emotional removal of what was not serving the purpose of our emerging soul.

Time-consuming with fits and starts, breaking out of the mold for some comes quicker.  What determines the length of this process? Is it about awareness or age, technique or tools?  Who has the answer, and does it matter?  Whether you are the tortoise or the hare, crossing this thresh hold, is critical.

If you have arrived at this place, it feels great.  The value meter for self-worth has risen.  The appearance of true authenticity shines through.


Laid bare of our baggage with a well written Definite major purpose in hand, are you ready, or am I???

Your dreams await!! Hesitating?  Is it fear or excitement? All I know is it is electric!

The task at hand…Courage to accept my power and move deeper into that hero’s journey, slap the girl in the glass a high five, and strike a victory pose.

Lesson Learn: The sound of breaking cement is beautiful.

WEEK 18 The Master Keys Experience

Paying the Price

Early reads in MKE brought about some questioning. Is this a Godly way to think or direction to take?  I was facing material that didn’t gel with my current views and the temptation was to take a road less challenged.

I finally made a firm decision to march forward into this uncharted territory and take it to the end.   So where am I in this journey so far with eight weeks to go?   I am in a state of the deepest spiritual growth I have ever experienced. There have been days of complete jubilation and days of tears.

Hebrews 12:1 says “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run the race marked out for us.”

For weeks now, I have been focused on finding, being aware, and turning from my old blueprint.  I probably drove my mastermind absolutely crazy, but I was determined.  It was my key to forward movement.  It was the anchor that held me back from launching.

I struggled to try to find it, begged others for help to see it, and was tormented that it wasn’t obvious to me.

And then it happened…

Slowly at first and then a flood of realization of what the blueprint of my life looked like.   It was not a pretty picture but just perhaps, I had grown to a place where I could see the ugly realities.  I was relieved and crushed at the same time.  The sin that “entangled me” was not the type that lived on my sleeve but those deep demons of thoughts on the inside.

If you are reading this and saying to yourself, tell me how I find it!  I wish I had all the answers.  But this I can tell you… You will not find it in the busyness of life.  You find it by opening yourself in the quiet morning sits, or the hour of dedication at night.  It will come to each of us at different times, in different ways, but only if you are ready to receive it.

Picture an onion’s layers being peeled back one by one.  Each layer that was revealed leading to another layer.  As I was prepared to receive the answer, they came.  The conscious mind told me I was good, had made great strides, and was growing yet for some gnawing reason, I knew better.  Quieting the soul and preparing to hear the subconscious mind’s wisdom is where the magic happened.  I would wake up after a night’s sleep and a realization would appear.

As I experience each piece of the blueprint map, I was able to trace it back to an event, an environment, a comment that labeled, a disappointment, and the list goes on.  There is probably more to the blueprint than I have now, but I have enough of a picture and understanding to say to myself “I LOVE YOU, Pam Plager” and we have some work to do.  A clear picture of the race is marked out for me and I am ready, willing and able.

LESSON LEARN:  You will find your answers when you are ready to receive them.


WEEK 17 HJ The Master Keys Experience


Recognizing my old blueprint when it rears its head has become my focus. If I could see it, I could nip it in the bud and this journey would become easier.  What does the old blueprint actually look like and how can I recognize it when I am in it instead of the new blueprint that I have created for myself?

How many times do I start the day’s journey in my new blueprint only to “get back in my head” justifying behavior based on the old blueprint and never even realizing I have taken a U-turn?

I have found that there is language that we consciously use that can set off an alarm that the old blueprint is back in play.

It simply has to do with using the word BUT.

Subby cannot resist the sound of your voice.  We typically use “but” to justify our behavior reversing our forward movement and back peddling to our old blueprint…Subby hears it all and filters nothing.

Look at the following statement with this in mind….

”This is what I want you to believe” BUT “this is what I really believe”

the diet_ i know i shouldn_t have eaten the chocolate cake today (what i want you to believe) but but it really has been a tough week (justifying action) relationship_ i

If you are skeptical, I say give it a try.  It is a pretty amazing exercise.

My mastermind partner who deals with clients has keyed into this gem and started to focus on the conversations of her clients when they use the word “but”, listening to the words that follow.  It has clarified to her what they are really thinking or what they really want. A game changer.

Just being aware of using this word can cause a trigger that will help you with changing and growing.

Changing the word but with “and”, “periods” and  “pauses” lets subby hear your feelings not your excuses. Using the word but creates internal frustrations or scattered thoughts which are counterproductive when clarity of purpose is critical to reaching your purpose in life.

Lesson Learned:  Be aware of using the word “but” and its effect.

WEEK 16 The Master Keys Experience

Confessions of a fearful writer

I have had a love-hate relationship with people that wax eloquently on paper.   A serious jealous streak would rise when enjoying that type of talent in others.  Struggling with wording, grammar, spelling, and actually pulling out how I am feeling and learning how to put it into words has always been a challenge.  How I wanted to be that person that could write something that would illuminate its reader!!! But why would I push through and put myself through that challenge???

Then along came MKE with the requirement that you must write a blog each week and the journey out of fear began.

I have pushed through the defeating thoughts that held me back and now I am a blogger.  I blog for myself and if it has a connection for others, I am grateful.

Each week, as I write my blog, I can hear my mastermind partner who nurtured me through my first two blogs in my head…. that is not necessary…cut it out….take it down a size.  Without her nurturing guidance, I would have been a statistic of one of those that had left the class.

What better way to celebrate your life changes and struggle than to journal your progress?  The blogs are a vivid written picture of thought processes that were being challenged along the last 16 weeks of the MKE class. As I scroll back through the blogs, my spirit is refreshed with the changes, observations, and direction my life is taking.

I read these words in Draw the Circle this week and I had to laugh.  “We have the natural tendency to remember what we should forget and forget what we should remember”.  How grateful I am that this journey is documented.  Once written, there is no denying the growth. Amnesia is not an issue.

Lesson Learn: There is great value in “your” written word.